She spent 10+ yrs in school , join degree college with dream in eye to become successful engineer one day. By the time her degree college came to end.recession hit india and it become so tough to find job. She didn’t lose hope and keep on struggling and found decent job soon. After completing 1yr..she move to new city hyderabad, far away from her own family, frens..just to nurture her career and achieve good position. It was not easy living alone that too with totally different culture around. Still she manged and survived there.
After staying one yr and learning all the stuff she came back to delhi..It was like dream come true for her to stay with family and work in reputed company at good position . Then one day he came to her life and she fell in luv and got married soon. Marriage never came in between her first luv ie her career. She still use to work with same enthu and zest in office. He was too very supportive and late office hours, long meetings, sometime work in weekend too..never created problem in their married life.
And then a lil fairy came into their world who took away all the attention , time , thinking process and her first baby ( career) took backseat for timebeing. After 4month of maternity leave she started working from home..Earlier things were ease and she was just working few hours a day and getting handsome salary at end of month. But there is something called JOB SATISFACTION . To keep you upto date with latest technology , to raise your hand for handling new project or new team need some courage and lot of time which a mother of 9month old baby cant give.
This is my story and I feel it happens with all of us…..when you feel like you are torn between family and work. Recently there were lot of promotions, grade changes at office and my name was not in last coz of obvious reason..i work from home and indian management has mentality that work from home is leisurely work ..u cant be serious abt it..though my UK Manager doesn’t think same and happily agreed to let me work from home as long as i required. But giving monetary benefit and new position is in hand of indian management. To proove myself in front of them again..i need to do some certifications and now it seems so tough to get time for studies.
Its so frustrating to see ur juniors going ahead of you..just coz they are working from office and so called boss has trust in them that they wont leave job coz of child raising issues.
So what shd a mother do…..Sit at home and feel satisfied that atleast at end of month she is earning decent salary and also near to her child ….and at lil corner of heart feel disappointed ..to see the way her career is going…
I know every mother has to go through this phase and I m no exception to this…and i m not saying its not worth…But then does that mean mother shd never give importance to career……..
we can’t say that i can concentrate again after few yrs when she will be big enough to go to school….bt then wouldnt she required me that time…There is no end to motherhood journey..
Today my blog completed 1yr. This was the date one yr back when i first finally got the courage to write my first post after lot lot lots of procrastination. I was not sure whether i will be able to keep up this blog alive or not but there was intense desire to write down my feelings thoughts and journey of pregnancy. Imagine blogging with a small infant in tow. Only somebody with a lot of perseverance, patience and dedication to the task at hand could do it.
In my initial day i use to read lot of blogs …i remember days when i spent 4-5hrs at stretch in reading blogs…courtsey to bloggers to leave their url link in comment section 
It was tough in initial day to think of topic to write so after kick off post i wrote abt weekend and then abt my fav ads on TV. Like everybody i too use to wait for comments on my blog and on this special would like to thank my first few frens who take time and stopped by my blog – Enchanted , Harsh , Kanagu. Then I started writing abt my pregnancy stuff and found more frens in this blog world.
You can understand my obsession with blogging with the fact that i wrote post even one day before delivery and was admitted to hospital couple of hours after hitting publish for this post
And after angel came into this world my first letter to her was the post which is still close to my heart.. Then came first recognizition to my blog from blogadda in the form spicy saturday pick for ” You know you are mom when“. Started writing montly updates from 5th month onward . hope someday angel will read this and enjoy as much i enjoy writing these updates .
How come a blog summary be completed without mentioning about first award which came from Swaram..thanks swaram ..this award is still very close to my heart as its my first one
Blogging has changed a lot in me. This is one thing which i feel i do for myself and for mother in me..its like knowledge hub as i learnt a lot from fellow bloggers who share same worry , fear , excitement , guilt etc as a mom/dad. Because of thngs learnt here only i feel more confident that i can raise my daughter in excellent way.
So a big thanks to all my frens who come and comment here and also request to delurkers ..plz comment on this post at least
Nancy has bestowed a wonderful award to me and I would like to pass this triple award to all of wonderful frens -
The ‘Triple Awards’ standing for “blogs of attitude and gratitude, a member of a proud sisterhood, and a best friend of all blogs.
Smitha,Saritha,Uma, Dhiren , Masood, Kanagu, vimmuu, swaram,mystery,smita,lakshmi,indy,Enchanted,Monika, Pixie , Oorja,Solilo,Chatterbox,IHM,Deeps,
Edited to add photo of star attraction of my blog
Her fav place is corner of kitchen where the most precious element of our house reside…my angel’s fav dustbin the moment we get her into walker ..she run toward dustbin.the only way to stop her is to close the kitchen door..Once kitchen door is closed next target is dark areas like under study table where electic socket is there and TV wire which she normally pull like its her swing..
She is perfect in crawling now and she also know that if she will cross the bed.she may fall….she always run toward corner of bed and then start looking at ground but never try to jump from bed smart girl indeed
Once her tummy is full she immediately removes the bib or her apron …and with a clear looks on me that her stomach is full and i shd stop pushing more food inside
Her fav game is peek a boo …even at midnight she play this with her dad…and whole day with me..this is our instant solution to stop her from crying
She easily feel bored with her toys…doesnt matter how attractive or expensive it is..she maximum play with it for 3days and after that if i try to give the same to her..she will immediately throws it..Now obviously i cant buy new toy every other day so i started toys with which she is bored and show to her after few days .
She is more interested in playing with my cell phone, empty boxes, wrappers, her diaper,clothes , tv remote etc
Few nights in this month were really miserable for her as tooth period going on but all her hard work of endless irritation on head and irritation in her gums pays off when we first saw bright white line on those small gums So now she is proud owner of 2 lower teeth and 2 upper
Changing dipaers or clothes has become very tough. It’s really really tough to get her sit peacefully and let me do my work. Sometime I m lucky to interest her in some toy or cloth or any box) otherwise struggle continue to even 30mins… Sometime I feel two ppl are needed to change her cloth…One to laid her down when she protest loudly and violently and other can quickly finish the deed
She hates to sit..always try to stand up..now she can hold bed back and try to stand the thing which stump her is how to sit back so either she just do dham and fall back on bed or start crying so that I shd rush and rescue her
now a days she babble coos and smiles a lot…her fav word is Ta Ta Ta Ta ta ta….the moment i say this she start repeating ta ta ta ta…and she make sound like grrrrrrrrrr…like running scooter sound I have recorded her voice in my mobile and whenever I play that in front of her…she starts smiling and also singing her ta ta ta again.
She just can’t withstand cap on her head…despite of this freezing cold she refuse to let her skarf or any cap stay more than 2mins.
I have started giving her sooji kheer and boiled and mashed potato and peas.
Achievement of the month – 4 white glowing shiney teeth
Moment of the month - At night while sleeping next to me..she put my finger inside her mouth and pressed it with full force under her tiny teeth….i was in deep sleep and not at all ready for this sudden attack and litterly shouted and she started crying..and tried to put my finger back in her mouth so that she can bite 
On the last day of year..nothing can be more good then going back down the memory lane and searching some cherished moments of the year!!
- Year start on a good note as i was pregnant and it went all way very smoothly , no hassles , no rush calls to doctor.
- Got work from home in april as that was 9th month..this was the best thing i could ask for in last days..Sometime i feel i m working in gr8 company who understand employee need and do everything possible to help them out
- d- day – 13th May – the day which i will cherish throughout my life, the day when my angel came into this world and change my perspective toward life. I wonder what i was doing before becoming mom…coz i spend my 99% of time with her only now
- June – toughest month as i was going through post natal depression for few days, change in sleep pattern…oh no there was no pattern even….2 in night and 2 in noon was same for me..Always alert to respond to small coo or pee or poo of angel
- Next two month were good from learning point of view….As they say you learn more with experience rather than books…My 100 hr spent on parenting books before angel were hardly of any use. Raising child is much different as mentioned in books ..No body told me that you will not sleep properly for at least a year..there will be no day and night,:-)
- Mid september came with tension as my maternity leaves were going to end…Lot of thoughts cris cross mind..how i will manage angel , my work and home too…but due to immense help from mom and office colleagues…i am still working from home and so far things going smoothly
- Mind work more on noting angel milestone then in office work
Is there life without kid. Felt like experienced mom now who can go on and on if somebody ask abt anything on child food to vaccination to healthy diet to crawling baby tips..etc etc…. - There was not even a single outing this year…I dont know how parents manage with their kids in flight or picnic area etc…We are too use to of leaving her with mom even if its smallest work at market.
- Got good news in dec that work from home is extended for few more months…
- Angel gave me new year gift yesterday by saying Mummy first time…ya she clearly said Mummy.
- Next big thing of life other than angel was blogging. ..a new medium for me to share my journey of motherhood, get to know abt some creative writers, new friends, some mother & father blogs which enhances my knowledge too and I m so hooked to blogging now.
- At last Just want to say thanks to all of you friends…and a wonderful new year ahead !!!
i like most of the movie..its tough for me to criticize any movie but this is one film which i would luv to watch again and again..
Aamir khan convincingly played a role of engineering student with his RDB patners sharman joshi and R madhwan.Its starts with IIT college scene .Aamir is sort of Einsteen in making in college. Everybody know salt water is good conductor of electricity but Rancho applied it on his ‘pissed-off’ senior to escape getting ragged on his very first day of college.He beleive student shout starve for excellence rather than success. He use quite some time this phrase ” We shd try to become perfectionist ” which is true in his real life..But excellence can’t be had if you strive half-heartedly or fearfully or, worst, mechanically. Thereby come in three more characters – Farhan (Madhavan) who wants to be a wild life photographer but is doing engineering to fullfil his dad’s dream; Raju (Sharman Joshi), a poor lad who’s so afraid of failure that his fear has become a self-fulfilling prophecy; and Chatur (Omi) who’s a learning machine adept at mugging up books.
Boman irani kind of permanent member of Hirani’s film played a character of Viru Sahastrabuddhe fondly called as VIRUS. I m way impressed by boman now..he played his character so well and splly his speaking style closely resembles that to typical professor in colleges..
Kareena has a very little role to play in treasure hunting (Amir hunting) story. She does well. She is a readymade idiot
There are some touch moment too when Rancho is trying to pull out baby from mona and baby seemed to be dead..I never cried during movies but after becoming mom ..i just cant see any other mom in tears.. doesnt matter even if its movie
Its frothy , funfilled and feelgood kinda movie. ALL Izz Well song is catchy and other song as well..
This movie remind me of my college life..and message it gave is too important for young aspirants”. Achieve perfection and success will follow you..”
Though i didnt like kareena much but her looks is appealing in this movie -
A must watch movie if you are looking for some good humour and social message too !!!!
Merry Christmas to my dear frens !!
May the magic of love twinkle in your lives throughout the holidays and the upcoming new year.
MERRY CHRISTMAS !!
Happy New Year
I felt this month passed so quickly..I have to think hard this time what shd i write ..
Well here are few of angel’s achievement..
She started spending more time in walker..Infact whenever i m tired…i put her on walker..she just fly in all rooms…feel tired..and i get her to sleep…this work almost everytime
she want to stand all the time now…she just hates to sit.
she recognize the poem i sing for her….if she is crying and i start reciting poem.she will smile immediately
She stares, smiles , play with strangers too…it seems my lil princess is turning into social person
Started giving apple and other fruits…I cant say what are her dislike or likes..she eat pretty much everything i put in her mouth
We left her first time at home with mom for more than 3 hrs…to be precise for 6hrs..and she didn’t miss me :-( ..she actually cry only if she sees me..if i m not around and she is getting her toys and food…thats more than sufficient for her
She respond very well to her name…this was one of the habit we developed in her before baby show..
she get up lot of times at night these days and i m having really tough times.. 
Still trying to recognize whats the reason for this sudden change of sleeping pattern..may be coz of winter season..
Now when she cry.tears come along…earlier it was only crying through sound…
Moment of the Month – Angel got “Most Active Baby ” award…
Angel flying in her walker -
I now very well understand why parents become mad when they enroll their child for any contest
Read a piece of news in times of india about Baby Show organised by mother’s pride school. Me and HD got excited to read this as there was category of infants too ( 0-6month )…I immediately login to their site to register but it was not working properly so waited for two day and finally get her registered for contest.
..I thought it will be good place to socialize and see how she react with other kids..
Two weeks we use to discuss lot abt Baby show…We were desperate to meet other parents..and see kids..how they dressed up..how much they are interatcing…The other reason of my enthusiasm behind this show was..I want to see how angel reacts in crowd..does she easily get along with teachers and other kids there or not..
We did lot of shopping for angel for baby show and of course for me too ..Mom shd also look good
That day got up early in morning as timing was 9:30 – 12:30.Getting early on sunday morning is worst thing but anything for our darling princess. Tried our level best to reach on time but still reached 30mins late…
Af first they give us paper for filling quiz of Most Aware Parents. It was easy and i quickly filled out..Next was our meeting with doc..Oh my god..she asked so many questions abt vaccination..Now i know when is her next vaccination due but can’t recollect name..then she ask abt other vaccination and no answer from us..however HD managed to peep into vacciantion card in her hand and give some answer ..It was clear we not nearby even to Most Aware parent..
Next step was to meet teacher who was sitting with lot of toys..Angel just jumped into pool of toys..One toy (see- saw) was of wooden material and looks quite heavy…teacher said to angel..”Oh baby its too heavy take some lighter one” Now my sweetipie first took that heavy toy from right.. hand and life another one from left hand..:-) And a broad smile following on proud parent face She was making faces with other kids and busy playing with all the toys there..She also tried calling angel by her name and she immediately respondied..Nevertheless..she was qute impressed with angel……and my expectation to get some award for angel rises.She was making faces with other kids and busy playing with all the toys there
Next they send us to coucling section. there also teacher try to hold angel and laugh and gigle with her..Ifelt quite happy to see that angel was going easily with everybody..she was also trying to jump onto other parents lap to hold their kids.. Now the real motto of this whole baby show came into picture..They want us to register angel for thier preschool. Reason for ths so called apex registration is that we will get monitory benefit. I tried to explain her that its too early for us to decisde..she is just 6month..its still 2.5yr left..we are not in hurry…and other reason their branch is far from my house ..i dont want to exert her by travelling 6km daily .Somehow after long discussion i managed to show my reluctance in getting angel registered for their school.
Last section was for me ..the contest was for “Most Aware Women”…thanks to my pregnancy book and lot of other stuff i read before angel..i know almost all questions ..i quickly completed it and hand it over to instructor there..
my heart break when they said..winners will be announced after one day..It was like tough wait..But next day i got call and lady over phone declared that Congratulations your daughter got “Most Active Baby” award..I was expecting this as i noticed angel was qutie active there as compared to other kids there in same age group….But there was one more surprise waiting for me..she told me tht i also got “Most Aware Women” award… :-)
We collected the prize next day.for angel it was rocking chair and for me two coffee mugs set. I felt more excited to see certificate. then started another long session of discussion with their business developement pannel for angel’s admission. I know this all activity is for getting business…( School is also business now). After getting prize it was more tough to say no..but i finally said..its too early..I want my daughter to enjoy her toddler days and wont send her anywhere before she complete 3yrs..
We celebrated my angel’s first prize with cake cutting
Nobody can forget this dreadful day of history where 9 terrorist shook all iconic locations of mumbai…My heart goes out for those families who lost their luvd ones.I read most abt TAJ hotel manager who lost his wife and kids in attack.Wonder if one year is enough to heal his wounds…or memories still fresh in his mind…and all others who lost their loved ones…
We all know that these attack were due to security breach..Nobody check the boat which they use to enter into india..There is a boat to be used as checkpoint at the port of mumbai whose daily expenditure is 8lakh and you wont find even single police or inspection guy on him..now what else we can call this ..mere waste of money on the name of security which we anyway not getting. Also terrorist were carrying lot of credit cards of almost all banks..lot of sim cards..that makes easy for them to carry out their dreadful work..
I even dont find any use of politician giving resign that time and back to their position in few months..Do politician think they can fool around ppl by this..Its high time that they realise
You can fool all the people some of the time, and some of the people all the time, but you cannot fool all the people all the time – Abraham Lincoln
Biggest question is Have we learnt anything from this attack. Are we confident enough that it will not be repeated again.
Its high time that we the ppl of india stand together and take action by questioning any wrong act of politician..Internal enemies are always more dangerous than external…If these ppl dont leak information….and do their designated job properly we can save our country..
At last to pay tribute to all those soldier who lost their lives in saving thousand other lives.
More abt mumbai attack can be read from here
Mahmud tagged me for this one
1. What is your current obsession?
– spending time with my angel2. What are you wearing today?
– Why this question is present in every tag..i never understnd…does it really matter what i m wearing today3. What’s for dinner?
– Hubby is out for office trip so i will also take day off from cooking and will order pizza4. What’s the last thing you bought?
– Black tshirt for myself5. What are you listening to right now?
– angel doing goo gaa goo gaaa gooo gaa6. What do you think about the person who tagged you?
– Passionate blogger and a cheerful person :-)7. If you could have a house totally paid for, fully furnished anywhere in the world, where would you like it to be?
– I luv my present city so if i could get bigger house like this here only..
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8. What are your must-have pieces for summer?
– cotton suits , cotton kurta from fab india…i luv their collection9. If you could go anywhere in the world for the next hour, where would you go?
– Switzerland10. Which language do you want to learn?
– Kids language if possible…so that i can know and understand why my darling is crying !!11. What’s your favorite quote?
– Life is too short,live it to the fullest12. Who do you want to meet right now?
– shahrukh khan13. What is your favorite color?
– Rainbow..14. What is your favorite piece of clothing in your own closet?
– All my sarees which are hanging in my wardrobe from long as i didnt get chance these days to wear them..15. What is your dream job?
– Working as boss16. What’s your favorite magazine?
– Reader digest…i dont read any other magazine17. If you had $100 now, what would you spend it on?
– I will just buy lots of books ..in reading mood these days18. What do you consider a fashion faux pas?
– No Comments !!19. Who according to you is the most over-rated style icon?
– Kareena Kapoor20. What kind of haircut do you prefer?
– steps21. What are you going to do after this?
– Do some office work22. What are your favorite movies?
– ALL SRK movies…I m big fan of him23. What are three cosmetic/makeup/perfume products that you can’t live without?
– i just need my comb nothing else24. What inspires you?
– My mother….she is my role model..If i just follow half of her teachings..my life would be worthwhile..25. Give us three styling tips that always work for you:
– Just wear dress in which you feel comfortable and confident..Never try to copy anybody… , greet everybody with broad smile , help others when possible26. What do you do when you “have nothing to wear” (even though your closet’s packed)?
– Will rush to market and buy something27. Coffee or tea?
– Milk28. What do you do when you are feeling low or terribly depressed?
– Shed some tear and talk a lot with hubby..29. What is the meaning of your name?
– First ray of sunlight !!30. Which other blogs do you love visiting?
– this place is too small to write all the names….any blog on which i leave my comment is my fav.31. Favorite Dessert/Sweet?
– Chocolate , icecream , hot choco fudge , cake32. Favorite Season?
– Autumn33. If I come to your house now, what would u cook for me?
– idli sambhar , cholle bathura ,pasta or whatever you like34. What is the right way to avoid people who purposefully hurt you?
– Nobody hurts me purposefully35. How do you calm yourself down when you are agitated or angry?
– Try to talk to anybody who is available that time..without discussing abt issue my anger wont come down..36. Who is the modern ideal girl?
– Who else..me ofcourseAnybody who has time to kill…tk this tag
